Billerica Public Library

The lonely hunter, how our search for love is broken, Aimée Lutkin

eng

Includes bibliographical references

no index present

non fiction

The lonely hunter

bibliography

1250346780

Aimée Lutkin

how our search for love is broken

"One evening, thirtysomething single writer Aimée Lutkin found herself at a dinner party surrounded by couples. When the conversation turned to her love life, Lutkin--who had dated on and (mostly) off for years--stated simply, "I don't really know if I'm going to date anyone ever again. Some people are just alone forever." As her friends rushed to assure her that love comes when you least expect it and to make recommendations for new dating apps, Lutkin wondered, Why, when there are more unmarried adults than ever before, is there so much pressure to couple up? Why is everyone so uncomfortable around single people? Why does it seem like your real life can't start until you meet The One? And is it possible to be single without being lonely? Over the course of the next year, Lutkin set out to answer these questions and to see if there really was some trick for escaping loneliness out there. She went on hundreds of dates; read the sociologists, authors, and relationship experts exploring singlehood and loneliness; dove into the wellness industrial complex; tossed it all aside to binge-watch Netflix and eat nachos; and probed the capitalist structures that make alternative family arrangements nearly impossible"--, Provided by publisher

Introduction: when can i say I'll be alone forever? -- Stasis -- If you don't love yourself . . . -- The one -- A room of one's own -- Destiny -- What is dating? -- Expectations -- Deep in the heat of summer -- Let's party -- Total eclipse of the heart -- The great escape -- The road most traveled on -- See you again, soon -- Single! and fabulous! -- New ceremonies -- O hunting heart, shall you find it -- Conclusion: a lost loved human face